Happy “You Didn’t Pick Him” Father’s Day!

Happy "you didn't pick him" Father's Day! I know a lot of people struggle with Father's Day because they don't feel their dads are what a dad should be. And I know a lot of people believe the Bible when it says, "to honor your father and mother", but struggle to honor their father when he isn't a good father.

I believe the answer to that is to understand why we honor our parents. First because God told us to. That seems simple enough, but why would God tell us to honor someone who isn't honorable? Because the honor isn't about that man who is your father, but is about our God who created that position, that role, that relationship. So we are honoring God's creation.

Second, God instituted the authority into that role, that position, that relationship. So we honor the authority that God put into that place, that relationship, that role because we honor God and His divinity. So when we honor our fathers, we are honoring God.

Our fathers don't have to be great men, good men, or good fathers in order for us to give that honor because it isn't about the actual man, but about God. If these fathers are bad men or bad fathers that's okay because we know that God has called us to love everyone through His perfect love and that includes bad fathers. Again, this is about God, obeying His command, and not about the man, in this case an actual human father.

So if you struggle with Father's Day or Mother's Day, whether it is your own parents, your in-laws, your children's parents or even your grandparents, know that God knows that and understands that. You showing love and honor to someone you don't think deserves it is what God has asked us all to do. And what He did for all of us first.

Reconciliation starts within my heart, your heart, so lets fix our hearts on the things of the Lord.

Happy Father's Day to all the fathers- the good, the bad and the ugly! May God Bless you, your children and all those in your lives!