The Lie of Brokenness
Considering and pondering the idea that Brokenness is the lie and Completely Healed is the Truth.
In my marriage, there were years where my husband or I looked broken or we looked broken. Some may have even believed we were getting divorced. And now when some of those same people see our current marriage and individual selves, they almost accuse us of being fake liars just pretending.They often reminisce about the days when fights happened, when resolutions weren't found, and when agreements were never made. All just to prove that our current relationship isn't everything it appears to be.
BUT what if all those years of brokenness in our marriage were the lie? What if it is easier to be a mess than it is to be whole? Easier to build a wall of pity, of childhood problems, of betrayal in relationships because that makes us off limits. Off limits to getting hurt again because we are already a victim. Off limits to accountability because we can't control our feelings and actions when we get triggered. What if we stopped accepting these lies and were bold and brave enough to be vulnerable?
That's what my husband and I did. Just decided that our past was no longer a predictor of our future and no longer the master of our present. That we couldn't undo our pasts, but we could choose to never let those hurts take another perfectly good day from us. That we were going to trust each other to a fault. It didn't matter...we were going to trust with our whole hearts and our whole beings. No matter how many times we got hurt because God could heal us.
We stopped letting our brokenness excuse us from accountability. We stopped letting our fears excuse us from accountability. We stopped believing that all the evil in world could excuse us from accountability.
None of us were created broken and fearful, but we all get there. But we don't have to stay there. Decide who has more power: you or other people? God or your past? God is our healer, so staying broken is refusing Him and His power. Listening to the lies from the past is refusing to listen to God and His Words about us. Trust God above all else.
